"Are you sure you're not having twins?" and other questions for #HundtBaby4
Since being "out" with the pregnancy of our fourth child, I've received all kinds of questions, comments, and reactions. Some of them have seemed typical things people say such as as wondering when I was due. Others have seemed a little more specific to this particular pregnancy. Either way, because of "My Crazy," I always feel a bit awkward talking about a pregnancy out loud as if I'm jinxing it in someway.
Please don't misunderstand, I am SO over the moon excited, grateful, and completely in awe of the honor of being pregnant. There have been many moments where I didn't think I'd ever get pregnant, even more still where I didn't think I'd ever stay pregnant, and just as many where I didn't feel like Josh and I could ever do this pregnancy thing on our own without lots of medical interventions. You don't go through all the infertility and miscarriage heartache without being one of the most appreciative pregnant people on Earth. I can tell you, being on my fourth baby, that stays with you- that fall-to-your-knees in praise type of gratitude.
BUT---> my fear... oh the fear...that really stays with you too and it does cripple my experience of being a pregnant person and makes me uncomfortable to talk and plan for a baby that isn't in my arms yet.
I explain all this just to help people understand me and know that I am grateful of how many people care to talk to me about this baby even if that conversation is hard for me to have. Please don't stop asking me questions or inquiring about this baby; I appreciate you.
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Anyway... here are some typical questions I've been asked with some answers for all who might be on the edge of their seat wondering..
- When are you due? I know I look like I'm due tomorrow, but am not until May 8th. And yes, if you're doing some numbers in your head, Nolan and Judah's birthday is May 7th and Carter's birthday is May 3rd. NO, WE DIDN'T PLAN THAT. See below... ;)
- Are you finding out what you're having? Nope- we've enjoyed not finding out with any pregnancies. It's worked for us and if it ain't broke, don't fix it :) Having Josh see the baby first and be able to tell me who this beautiful miracle is has been a wonderful experience.
- How have you been feeling? Mentally, exactly the same as the others- mostly a complete basketcase ;) Physically, first trimester wasn't easy... I didn't want a single food. Yuck. But now I'm kicking it and feeling just great. Very winded this time (I can barely walk up the stairs without breathing hard. I am so out of shape).
- Are the boys excited to be big brothers? Yes! Especially Nolan and Judah. Carter isn't totally there- I think he likes being the baby. All the boys would love a sister- they can't imagine having FIVE boys in the house with just me as the only girl.
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Here are some additional questions that seem specific to this particular pregnancy...
- Is this baby 'planned'? Yes! We've always hoped to have four kids.
- Are you trying for that girl? The short answer to that one is no. In fact, absolutely not. I'll be so clear that Josh and I are not trying for a girl.. we will not have five or nine or twelve kids until the baby girl pops out. We've always wanted a bigger family- always talked about having four kids. I am at such peace no matter what gender pops out! If it's a boy- that's incredible! I know what to do with boys, I'll also have three other boys born in May, which means I'll want or need for nothing for this baby. If somehow we squeak a girl out- what a wonderful surprise.
- Are you sure you're not having twins this time? Don't you think me, a mom of twins, would know if I was having another set?! They do check for that. And look, I know I'm huge. I popped right out with this one- that'll happen when your abdominal muscles are near your hips... I've got NOTHING to hold anything in people! My skin is the opposite of firm and tight, thank you, kindly, for pointing that out to me. And another thing, if you think I've got a big belly now, you should've seen how huge I got with ACTUAL twins ;) I've been asked this question several times, can you tell?
- All your babies born within a week of each other? How did you plan that? My answer to that is that you must not know me very well. Someone who's had as much trouble as we have getting pregnant and staying pregnant cannot plan things like this. This is an incredible coincidence. God, you do make me giggle.
Regardless of what else I might be asked as this pregnancy continues, #HundtBaby4 needs to know nothing else except that he/she is incredibly loved, was incredibly planned for and prayed about, and will be a perfect addition to our family.
#21weeks
Please don't misunderstand, I am SO over the moon excited, grateful, and completely in awe of the honor of being pregnant. There have been many moments where I didn't think I'd ever get pregnant, even more still where I didn't think I'd ever stay pregnant, and just as many where I didn't feel like Josh and I could ever do this pregnancy thing on our own without lots of medical interventions. You don't go through all the infertility and miscarriage heartache without being one of the most appreciative pregnant people on Earth. I can tell you, being on my fourth baby, that stays with you- that fall-to-your-knees in praise type of gratitude.
BUT---> my fear... oh the fear...that really stays with you too and it does cripple my experience of being a pregnant person and makes me uncomfortable to talk and plan for a baby that isn't in my arms yet.
I explain all this just to help people understand me and know that I am grateful of how many people care to talk to me about this baby even if that conversation is hard for me to have. Please don't stop asking me questions or inquiring about this baby; I appreciate you.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Anyway... here are some typical questions I've been asked with some answers for all who might be on the edge of their seat wondering..
- When are you due? I know I look like I'm due tomorrow, but am not until May 8th. And yes, if you're doing some numbers in your head, Nolan and Judah's birthday is May 7th and Carter's birthday is May 3rd. NO, WE DIDN'T PLAN THAT. See below... ;)
- Are you finding out what you're having? Nope- we've enjoyed not finding out with any pregnancies. It's worked for us and if it ain't broke, don't fix it :) Having Josh see the baby first and be able to tell me who this beautiful miracle is has been a wonderful experience.
- How have you been feeling? Mentally, exactly the same as the others- mostly a complete basketcase ;) Physically, first trimester wasn't easy... I didn't want a single food. Yuck. But now I'm kicking it and feeling just great. Very winded this time (I can barely walk up the stairs without breathing hard. I am so out of shape).
- Are the boys excited to be big brothers? Yes! Especially Nolan and Judah. Carter isn't totally there- I think he likes being the baby. All the boys would love a sister- they can't imagine having FIVE boys in the house with just me as the only girl.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Here are some additional questions that seem specific to this particular pregnancy...
- Is this baby 'planned'? Yes! We've always hoped to have four kids.
- Are you trying for that girl? The short answer to that one is no. In fact, absolutely not. I'll be so clear that Josh and I are not trying for a girl.. we will not have five or nine or twelve kids until the baby girl pops out. We've always wanted a bigger family- always talked about having four kids. I am at such peace no matter what gender pops out! If it's a boy- that's incredible! I know what to do with boys, I'll also have three other boys born in May, which means I'll want or need for nothing for this baby. If somehow we squeak a girl out- what a wonderful surprise.
- Are you sure you're not having twins this time? Don't you think me, a mom of twins, would know if I was having another set?! They do check for that. And look, I know I'm huge. I popped right out with this one- that'll happen when your abdominal muscles are near your hips... I've got NOTHING to hold anything in people! My skin is the opposite of firm and tight, thank you, kindly, for pointing that out to me. And another thing, if you think I've got a big belly now, you should've seen how huge I got with ACTUAL twins ;) I've been asked this question several times, can you tell?
- All your babies born within a week of each other? How did you plan that? My answer to that is that you must not know me very well. Someone who's had as much trouble as we have getting pregnant and staying pregnant cannot plan things like this. This is an incredible coincidence. God, you do make me giggle.
Regardless of what else I might be asked as this pregnancy continues, #HundtBaby4 needs to know nothing else except that he/she is incredibly loved, was incredibly planned for and prayed about, and will be a perfect addition to our family.
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